Today I read a headline that just floored me. David Duchovny in Rehab For Sex Addiction. WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE? I know everyone has their problems. But I am going to rant here. Sex Addiction? Really, really. What does that even mean?
- He wants to have sex all the time.
- He wants to have sex with many partners
- He wants to have sex with himself
- How often does this get in the way of his life?
I have dated many men (Mainly because I didn’t get married until I was 40). Most of them wanted to have sex all the time. Isn’t that normal? By all the time, I mean whenever their girlfriend or wife would provide sex. (One boyfriend I couldn’t even get undressed in front of because he always made us late). Maybe this is Duchovny’s problem, his wife doesn’t want to have sex as often as he does…welcome to the real world pal.
I just don’t get it…he has what appears to be a great wife, two children, probably more money than he knows what to do with.
I repeat – I just don’t get it. Please don’t tell me that this is a serious condition and it’s great he is getting help. He needs to get a grip and look around him. Problems a plenty. Maybe he should volunteer at a hospital in the children’s cancer ward. That might put his problem in perspective.
Sex addiction…really? Too much information.
My guess would be it’s related to pornography. I have a friend whose husband has this problem – he was CONSUMED with spending hours online and it almost destroyed their marriage. She could never be enough to fulfill all his fantasies and the visual images he saw… well, how can a mere woman compare?
He too had to undergo some type of counseling to overcome it. (And apparently it’s like alcoholism or drug addiction – the craving is always near the surface)
All I know is that my friend, (his wife) and their children are much happier now that he is not actively living that type of life any longer. But she remains dubious of how long it’ll last. It’s a sad situation, actually.
Not trying to change your mind – I’m just saying the little I know in regards to the issue.
I have a real hard time understanding, when we all have free will, how this type of addiction can even get started. We all have to make choices in our lives and then live by them. Duchovny chose to get married and have a family…that should be his priority and first responsibility. Pornography and family just don’t go together. I feel sorry for your friend, but I reiterate…so many more difficult problems people have that can’t be controlled. I know a couple who have a two year old boy with liver cancer…no comparison. Thanks for your input.
I think a sex addiction is like every other addiction (alcohol, gambling, drugs, etc.). Their brains are altered in such a way that the compulsion is undeniable. There is a lot of shame involved. My father was an alcoholic and it is hard to understand the addiction until you live with it.
Again, another thought provoking post. I am definitely going to put my “thinking cap” on before I come over here:-) It’s nice to know that you are “local”.
Also, I didn’t know you were in Wisconsin!!! I am in Brookfield and my daughter is going to Madison. Go Badgers:-)
I hate to say it, but I wonder if he isn’t the proverbial actor/narcissist. Who thinks that he can get any woman’s attention, even beyond his wife’s. And got caught having sex with other women, and when caught, cried wolf. I have a sex addiction honey, please don’t kick me to the curb, because I know that this will hurt my squeaky clean acting career. And an addiction, even a sex addiction, makes him sound, well, so much more like the common man. Too bad that man couldn’t pay more attention to his wife, and family, than doing whatever it was that he was doing that now has him claiming it is a sex addiction. I really feel for his wife. How humiliating is it for her? Who is supporting her, while he is making a fool out of her?
I agree…. no comparison.
You know we all lose our way, some of us worse than others. I guess as someone who once really lost my way, I have a hard time pointing too many fingers. Luckily many people listen to the advice of this is bad or that is bad and stay away from it in the first place and don’t end up in that place. It is very sad because it can ruin families. Also because it sucks to have so much time and energy wasted from something that could have been controlled. Every moment is precious as your friends are experiencing such tragic uncontrollable heartache.
Also a reminder when I feel bad about what I don’t have, that just because you have it all doesn’t mean you life is perfect.
I think sex addiction has to do with high risk sexual behavior, like having to go to prostitutes or things like that and it’s because they have been caught, otherwise no one would know about it.
I agree with you Becca. I think Noble Pig has a point too. I do think in hollywood, going to prostitutes and that lifestyle is more common than we know.
Hollywood elite feel they live in a different world and some think they have a different set of rules than the rest of us.
I feel for his children the most. They didn’t ask to be born, but once born, it is up to the parents to provide the best home and atmosphere for their children. And in my book sex addiction, and announcing it to the public, doesn’t fall into that category.
Thanks for everyone,s input.
I don’t really get it either… I don’t have a problem with men looking at pornography. I draw the line at hiring prostitutes.. .. but strip bars and a little porn.. no problem…
I understand that men usually want more sex than women. I’m pretty sure that if I was married to Mr. Duchovny I’d be wanting plenty myself…