I have just started reading the Millenium Trilogy by Stieg Larsson. In doing so, I have started surfing the internet to find info on him. His partner of 32 years Eva Gabrielsson is writing a book about Stieg Larsson. The second part of the book describes her grief over Larsson’s death and how she dealt with it. Below is an excerpt from an interview she did with Rachel Cooke of The Observer.
“It’s about what it’s like to lose someone like that, someone you’ve loved for so long. Everyone will encounter this [the shock of losing someone] sooner or later. I want to show what a hell it is. But also I want to say: don’t be afraid. Embrace it, and you’ll get through it. You become somebody else. You can’t sleep, you can’t eat, you are in total distrust of the world. But this is the way it is supposed to be. There is something in our genetic code, something primitive, that takes us over because our rational self cannot deal with the reality. You’re an animal now. But the more of an animal you are, the safer you are: it protects you. It’s there to help you survive.”
This seems a bit dramatic, but it describes exactly how I felt when I was dealing with the death of my father and our beloved dogs, Bronte and Charlotte. Especially this part…our rational self cannot deal with the reality.
-thotlady
Bronte
Charlotte
Last month a friend of mine passed away. He was 52 and he and his wife had been married for 32 years. Her pain radiated off of her and I could physically feel it. Death had the ability to touch us in a way that nothing else can.
I agree. Reality sometimes suck so no wonder our rational selft doesn’t like it.
Those are wonderful pictures of Bronte and Charlotte. I finished reading the Stieg books about 2 weeks ago. I started reading them because EVERYONE was reading them on the metro. I thought, “what are these books and why haven’t I heard of them.” I really liked them. I’m a bit of a vegetable today so can’t even bring myself to think about grief and death. It’s been a long day. I had a job interview today.